The creak of the floorboards gave Jameson away. My son has developed a knack for eavesdropping, just in case he can catch wind of something exciting—like plans for his next big game or birthday surprise. This time, though, his ears caught something a bit less magical: a disagreement between Christa and me over bills and budgets. And, I’ll admit, I’d just let a not-so-kind comment about her spending slip out.

Arguments happen, even in the strongest marriages. Sometimes, those disagreements unfold with little ears tuned in. It’s a moment to pause, reflect, and shift the narrative. Instead of letting kids overhear frustration or criticism, we can fill their ears with words that lift, build, and demonstrate the foundation of a loving, respectful marriage. Here are six affirmations you can say about your wife—or directly to her—that are worth saying out loud when the kids are within earshot.

1. “I was wrong.”

I’ll be the first to admit: those three little words are tough to spit out. But they’re powerful. Owning up to a mistake shows humility and commitment to your relationship. As Christa reminds me, “In a marriage, it’s not about who’s right—it’s about getting it right.”

Why your child needs to hear it:

When your kids hear you admit you’re wrong, they learn that being honest and accountable strengthens relationships. It’s a chance to model humility and teamwork for them.

2. “I’m sorry.”

Sometimes, kids only catch the conflict, not the resolution. They miss the part where apologies are exchanged and the air is cleared. Saying “I’m sorry” in front of them demonstrates that love and forgiveness are essential in a healthy marriage.

Why your child needs to hear it:

Hearing you apologize teaches them that relationships require repair and effort. They’ll understand that apologizing isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a strength that builds trust and connection.

3. “I love you.”

This might seem obvious, but when’s the last time you made a point of saying it intentionally, with your kids around? Christa and I make it a habit to say it often—whether it’s a quick “love ya” on the way out the door or a heartfelt “I love you” in the middle of the chaos.

Why your child needs to hear it:

Kids thrive on security. Hearing their parents exchange loving words reassures them that their home is built on a foundation of love.

4. “You’re amazing at…”

Let’s be honest: Christa is the glue that holds this family together. Whether she’s organizing the kids’ schedules, cheering from the stands, or tackling the endless to-do list, she’s incredible. I make sure to say it, not just to her but in front of the kids. “You’re amazing at making us all feel cared for” or “You’re so good at juggling everything.”

Why your child needs to hear it:

When they hear you compliment your spouse, they learn to recognize and appreciate the strengths of others. It also shows them what respect and admiration look like in a partnership.

5. “I like you.”

Of course, I love Christa, but there’s something special about telling her I like her too. “I like how you make me laugh,” or “I like spending time with you.” It’s a reminder that our bond goes beyond love—it’s rooted in genuine friendship.

Why your child needs to hear it:

Liking your partner teaches kids that friendship is a cornerstone of a happy marriage. It shows them that beyond love, enjoying each other’s company is key.

6. “You’re an incredible mom.”

Parenting is hard, and we all have moments of doubt. But I want Christa to know she’s an amazing mom—not just privately, but in front of our kids. “You’re incredible at helping Addie with her school projects” or “The way you support Jameson at his games is inspiring.”

Why your child needs to hear it:

Hearing you acknowledge your spouse’s parenting skills gives your kids confidence in their family unit. It also encourages them to express gratitude and respect for their parents.

The nicest thing I’ve ever said to Christa in front of the kids? It might just be, “I wouldn’t want to do life with anyone else but you.”

What about you? What’s the best thing you’ve ever said to your spouse in front of your kids?